One Year On – Most Frequently Asked Questions

9 May

So today is my one year anniversary! I can’t quite believe that it’s been a whole year since I cobbled this post together.   What a journey!  Sometimes I have felt disheartened by the cruel demeaning comments that infrequently pop up, sometimes I have had “blog block” and it seemed like I had nothing to say or no good photos and I just wanted to delete the whole thing and forget about it.  But thanks to you lovely lot I have picked myself up or snapped out of my funk and carried on writing. I have racked up almost 500,000 views, 200 posts and around 3000 social media fans and subscribers.  Those are the kind of figures that I like to perve over! I have been to amazing press events and shows, hosted glorious guest bloggers, been on and at brilliant photo shoots and have blogged and written for some great sites.
I wasn’t sure quite what to do for my year anniversary, my Big Blog Giveaway although amazing was quite exhausting and I’m not too sure how I could top that just yet. And so I took a less ordinary celebratory route – I’d like to post up some of my frequently asked questions and hopefully provide some great solutions.

Q: Where can I buy “x” bra?
I get women who write to me and email me and leave comments asking me about a multitude of sizes. I don’t know all the answers but I do know of a few fab sites.

Ewa Michalak make gorgeous bras from a 24-48, A-KK.  Some sizes are custom made only and non returnable, but Ewa and her team are very thorough with their measuring methods. There are a multitude of blogs out there, including my own that review the bras.  Curvy Wordy is the queen of the reviews, Thin And Curvy has reviewed custom made smaller backed bras, and some more reviews can be found on Invest In Your Chest and Sophia Jenner

I also love Brastop for their range of bras, their fabulous discounts and their easy to use site.  Keep an eye on their Facebook page for upcoming deals, competitions and brilliant fitting tips and videos. If you feel brave enough you can even partake in their Model Of The Month contest! They also have a fabulous blog where they post up helpful reviews, often showing the underwear on the reviewers in question which gives you a great idea of how it could look on you. They discuss relevant topics and news and recently hit one million views! My blog has got a lot of catching up to do!

Q: Where can I get a bra fitting?

I know a lot of you lovely ladies are based in places other than the UK and therefore struggle a little more than us to get a decent bra fitting and find bras that are suitable. I am in contact with many ladies and many great bra fitting companies and shops that offer “proper” fittings, so if you do want help the best thing to do is to post your question and location on my Facebook wall and hopefully there will be someone somewhere who knows of a location to get fitted for bras. The best and most instant advice I can give is that you use this bra fitting calculator as it has been the most successful one I have ever seen! Of course it is just a starting point and will not help you with all bras as all brands fit differently. However it can give you a ball park figure for your figure and if you are in a position to try on that bra then do it, you may be surprised.

If you are based in the UK then my first suggestion would be Bravissimo as they have taught me everything I know. They are helpful, friendly, make you feel at ease and often very busty themselves – you can see the magic of a well fitted bra at work! They never pressure you to make a sale, have an extensive selection of sizes, colours and styles.  And above all they explain how bras work! If you are unable to get into a store then they do also offer email and phone fittings.  If you think you are below a D cup then they can still fit you, although they may not have a bra to test out the size they estimate you being.

Leia Lingerie only have three stores but if you are close to them then check them out, I cannot say enough good things about them!

Another lady  that uses modern technology to her advantage is the wonderful Canadian based Claire Dumican of Butterfly Lingerie. She can host Skype fittings with ladies all over the world and is a complete and utter sweetie.

Q. How on earth can I be such a small band/large cup?!

Finding out your true size is a shock to most women. They often stubbornly refuse to believe that they can be a smaller back size or bigger cup size. I know of one woman who has a 24 inch waist and wears 36Ds. “I have a broad back” she says – erm, so do I but my back is not a foot wider than my waist…  Women often resent being told what to do when it comes to something personal like a bra, even when they have asked for advice.  I hope that these illustrations below will help bust a few myths.

FACT: Bra bands can be found in sizes as low as a 24.
FACT: D cup is not that big.

This woman is a natural D cup.

This woman wears a 24JJ/26J.

This woman is a natural 28J.

These women wear 30 backed F+ bras.

This woman is a natural 30HH.

This woman has just found out that she needs a 26H. She has fake breasts but they still need support and can still cause back pain.

As soon as women stop associating numbers and letters with false media ideas and images the sooner they can all stop complaining of back pain and hating their breasts.


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Q1. Do your bras cause you pain and discomfort? Do you live for the end of the day when you can remove them?  Do your breasts bulge and spill out of the cups?  Do you have to re adjust your breasts into your bra several times a day?
Yes? – Go to Q2.
No? Congratulations! You sound like you are in a well fitted bra.

Q2. Do you fasten your bras straight onto the tightest hook or do they ride up during the day?
Yes? – You may need to try a smaller band size. Go to Q4.
No? Go to Q3.

Q3. Are your bra bands so tight that they are hard to get on and leave angry red marks on your skin that take a long time to disappear?
Yes? – Your band is too tight, try going for a larger size. It is great that you are wearing firm backed bras but try not to overdo it, very tight bands can be just as harmful as overly loose ones.
No? It sounds like your band is spot on. Go to Q4.

Q4. Do your breasts spill out the side, top or bottom of your bra cups, forcing the central gore away from your chest?
Yes? – Your cup size is too small and will put strain on your shoulders and may cause your breasts to be saggy and misshapen. Go to Q6.
No? – Go to Q5.

Q5. Once you have leaned forward and dropped your breasts into the bras cups do you still find you have space in the cup?
Yes? Your bra is too large in the cups. Try sizing down a cup or two.
No? It sounds like your bra cups are spot on. Go to Q6.

Q6. Do your shoulder straps dig in?
Yes? – If your band is too loose then that could be why as your shoulders are taking the strain of the weight of your breasts. If your band is spot on then your straps could be over tightened. Loosen them so you can fit two fingers underneath them comfortably.
No? Go to Q7.

Q7. Do your straps often fall down throughout the day?
Yes? Make sure you tighten the straps to a two finger tension. The bra band needs to take 80 percent of the weight but the straps are necessary too.
No? It sounds like your straps are doing their job just fine.
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Q. How can I become a plus size model?
It is important to remember that I am not a model – I am a waitress.   I do not know the secret formula.  I have had a few shoots but I am not a professional, just a very fortunate girl. Not every woman can or should be a model, just like not everyone can or should be a doctor or a builder or a teacher or an air host. To be a model you generally have to be over 5’9, be very well proportioned, very well groomed, willing to travel, willing to go to jobs that may not want you, willing to wear anything. If you do find a company who wants you you should never have to pay a join up fee or for any photographs, they should be good enough to find you work or tell you “no thank you’. If you just fancy having a photo shoot done then it is something you may well have to pay for.

Q. Do you get freebies?

Yes I do. Quite often the freebies I receive are items that I have tried on or selected and then been sent and so they will already be to my taste and satisfaction. Sometimes they are surprises from companies who know me well or want to thank me for doing reviews. I am always honest and fair, often stating if it is not perfect or not an item I would usually go for. I think that there is often a huge stigma that surrounds bloggers who do receive and review freebies and I really dislike it. I choose to blog, I choose to write about and credit companies, I choose to do it for free, yes. But I can see my blog clicks, incoming and outgoing. I can tell when my readers rush off to an online store and have a look at a product I have reviewed. And if a few of you buy that product then that company is effectively making money having done no work. So I do appreciate it when companies reward me for my hard work. I do not expect it but I am grateful and I will do my best to submit a fair honest review of any products received. Likewise I am amused and sometimes a little irked by comments or messages that lament at the commenter’s lack of freebies and event invitations. Us blogging folk work extremely hard to build up and maintain our reputations. If you want the same pleasures then why not give blogging a go – it is a lot of hard work but you reap what you sow and I promise that you will have a blast.

I hope that those questions and answers have been useful and insightful.  Thank you for being a part of my amazing year and remember – all women are real, and pretty much all of them have curves <3

20 Responses to “One Year On – Most Frequently Asked Questions”

  1. izzylawliet May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    I love this post. Absolutely truthful and straight forward. =D

  2. Christine May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    <3 <3 <3

  3. questfortheperfectbra May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Congratulations! Your reviews are so helpful. (I also benefitted from your ultra-generous giveaway!) Thanks for inspiring me to start blogging!

  4. dcsurfergirl May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Smile! Your blog rocks!

  5. lettersfromwetville May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    I have really enjoyed your blog Georgina, and check it most days. Just one point about shoulder straps falling down. I endlessly had this problem no matter how careful I was with getting a well fitting bra. Then last year, as I learnt more about fitting my body through learning to sew my own clothes, I realised the significance of having narrow, sloping shoulders. I bought a pack of silicone bra strap supports (like these: http://www.avokado.co.nz/shop/vi05-vixxen-p-589.html) and have never looked back. Because only one shoulder slopes significantly, I only need the support on one side. I feel so much more professional in my appearance at work now I’m not hoiking up a bra strap all day.

    There are some great blogs out there now which feature young, busty women like yourself who love lingerie. I now it’s a harder reveal, but I would love to see or read reviews of bras from older women with softer breast tissue Deco looks good so long as the upper flesh isn’t wobbly, but as you’d imagine, wobbly big boobed women still want to look and feel great.

    • fullerfigurefullerbust May 18, 2012 at 12.53 #

      Thank you :) and they look fab! Thanks for sharing!

      I think more and more bloggers are appearing and starting to reveal more and so soon there should be something for everyone x

  6. Nat May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Thank you so much for this post! I appreciate that you had some tips for those of us in the US too :) My bras sometimes leave red marks around my ribcage. Not angry horrible deep ones, just slight red marks at the end of the day – does that mean my band is too tight?

    • fullerfigurefullerbust May 18, 2012 at 12.53 #

      If they fade pretty quickly and do not leave to bruises or cuts then they are ok – that’s what shoes do to our feetx

  7. spiffypants May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    You are so awesome. Because of stumbling across your blog a few months ago, I finally started wearing the right size bra, and I went down a band size and up a cup size in what I can only imagine is tissue migration! You’re doing many ladies like me a great service by getting this information out there <3

  8. AMB May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Have you done a post on Bravissimo? In posts about bad fittings, you often reference that Bravissimo is really good. My mother and her sister, both D+ women, are going to the UK, and I am urging them to use this opportunity to go bra-shopping (I could write essays about how bad bra fitting is in Denmark: EU sized bands are believed to be equal of centimeters, so 85cm ribcages [33,5"] are put in 85bands [38band], we are told that an A-cup equals 12cm difference [4,7"], and you can’t find any FF+). If you have written a review, or know another blog who has, I would really like to show it to them :D

    • allatalarsvenska May 11, 2012 at 12.53 #

      Google “bravissimo fitting review” and you will find plenty of reviews.

      I’ve been there, and they are excellent. You get the best help if you book your fitting in advance. Then you will have someone who’s basically with you in the fitting room at all times. If you just walk in and ask to try bras on, you also get very good help but then the fitter will help several people at the same time.

    • allatalarsvenska May 11, 2012 at 12.53 #

      BTW, Change has shops in Denmark. They have a wide range of sizes at OK prices, check out http://change.com/da. I think the brands Bravissimo carry are better quality and Bravissimo staff has certainly been more knowledgable, but Change is still OK and you save the trip to the UK. :-)

      • AMB May 13, 2012 at 12.53 #

        Thanks, I’ll look for a review :)
        Yeah, I know of Change, I just made a quick generalization, because I have many things to add on Change: I am actually VIP member, but I have given up on them: Despite that they actually have the only accurate Danish calculator, their staff still don’t correctly translate measurements to bra size – and when I was given a 38F, (I’m a 34HH) and it didn’t fit, the fitter said “Yes, it looks wrong. I don’t know why though, because this is your size. Sorry, goodbye” – I have also been told that the centergore is not supposed to sit flat on bigger boobs, so I would have to live with the centergore actually being so far from my body that it touched my shirt. Also, they only go up to H (I’ve only seen two styles in this, and one of them only available for 36+), and they even run smaller than other cup-sizes :( And as you also say, quality is not great: They have a tendency to just make bigger cups wider, so you end up with quadro-boob and wires all the way on your shoulder-blades: So Change is so close, yet so far ;)

        How are bras in Sweden? (based on your screen-name, I assume you are Swedish ;) ) It was a bra fitting in Malmö that fitted me for my first proper bra, and I remember it as a good experience, though being terrified over the fact that my first proper bra was a D-cup :b

      • allatalarsvenska May 13, 2012 at 12.53 #

        Yeah, had I written a longer review on Change, it would have been more or less what you wrote. :-) But sometimes I find good stuff there, since I know myself what to look for. And I’m “only” an FF, which translates into G or H at Change since their sizing chart doesn’t have the double-letters.

        I’m Swedish but I live in Norway. The selection in both countries is not great, but there are some small, independent stores that carry eg Freya and Fantasie and know their trade.

        That said, my first proper fitting was at Bravissimo, and it was a hallelujah moment! I never miss an opportunity to go there. I also buy online from the UK. Even with postage it’s half price compared to Norway.

  9. RachRahs May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Just discovered your blog last week via the Pepperberry FB page, so followed you on twitter – and love love love what you are doing! Thank you so much, you are really helping me get my confidence (and tits!) back post babies :D xxx

  10. scarlettonamission May 10, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Congrats! You have a big, loyal following after one year and you deserve it :) Awesome list of FAQs, btw. May I suggest that you make a permanent link to this page in an obvious location so new readers can easily find it? This is such a great post it deserves to be found :)

  11. allatalarsvenska May 11, 2012 at 12.53 #

    Happy anniversary! :-) Keep up the excellent work!!

  12. Johanna Anez May 11, 2012 at 12.53 #

    That is true most women do not know their real size. Once you measure your torax and chest size you will never get it wrong. Choosing right fabric is key to comfort as well

  13. Agueda Macias August 22, 2012 at 12.53 #

    I didn’t read all comments, so I don’t know if that’s been said. About bra fittings, a site that’s been really helpful to me is bratabase.com. As I live in South America, trying american/english bras out is not possible, so I just go there and check how a certain bra fits other girls. It’s been working so far!

  14. Tamsin December 28, 2013 at 12.53 #

    This entry is so true, I HATE bra shopping with a passion because each store has different brands and each brand has a different size for the same cup size. I recently spent a week flitting from one local clothing store to the next in search of something that actually fits. I fitted on a 44E in one collection in one store and the cups were HOPELESSLY too small, I fitted on a different manufacturer/collection in another store and walked out with a superbly fitting 44DD (which cost me an arm and a leg). I just wish that I could find affordable bras that fit well instead of having to settle for poorly fitting bras (ie they actually don’t fit at all) for everyday wear around the house but the quality stuff is just astronomically priced here in South Africa.

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