I wrote this recently for a plus size magazine, hence the focus on the fuller figure <3
What is a ‘curve’?
Having been recently subjected to my boyfriend watching hours of Grand Prix action I have learnt that they can be a bad thing – a bend in the road that can make or break your time.
It can also be a confusing thing – a strange tool on an image editing programme that I don’t yet fully understand!
It can be something rather mundane – a curve on a graph.
And it can be something beautiful that needs to be embraced and celebrated – the curve on a woman’s body.
If we look back a few decades we see how the likes of Brigitte Bardot and Marilyn Monroe were popular gorgeous women with sought after body shapes who are still remembered as inspirational woman today. However, it seems that although the perfect shape for health and appearance is still the ‘hourglass’, we are still being subjected to images of waiflike catwalk models who are meant to represent the ideal shape of a woman. Film lead roles are nearly always played by very slender women, and when a curvier heroine does come along, such as Tracy Turnblad in ‘Hairspray’ and Betty Suarez in ‘Ugly Betty’, it seems almost laughable that they could ever find love and happiness as we are not used to seeing these larger types playing lead roles. This all contributes towards the message that being bigger and curvier is something to escape. I am forever bombarded with adverts in magazines and on the TV about women who went from a size 18 to an 8 due to this that and the other diet – but why should women have to feel that pressure to be slim?! It seems like we are being told that being slim will make our lives better. Wrong. Not everyone suits being slender and svelte and it shouldn’t be any woman’s life long aspiration. Some of us are bigger, have friends, a job, a lover and really enjoy our lives! Why should we subject ourselves to the misery of a diet and change what we are. Curves are beautiful. They are womanly, grabbable and look great in figure hugging dresses.
However, a curvy body is not always the easiest to shop for as most jeans are not constructed with rounded thighs and a booty in mind and when they make dresses in a size 16 they still seem to assume that that person will have a size 8 bust. But there are some fantastic plus size stores out there that really cater for a fuller body and it is so worth hunting around to see what there is rather than making do with ill fitting high street choices. With regards to my own body shape – I dislike my arms and legs and ideally like to wear figure hugging knee length dresses, belted at the waist with a shrug to cover my arms – thus showing off my good bits, trying to mask my not so good bits and embracing my curves. And that is what we should all do – embrace what we have been given, focus on our great points and let that shine through. It has taken me a very long time to firstly come to terms with my stubbornly plus size body, and secondly to to know how to dress it and flaunt it, but with the aid of plus size and specialist stores I am there! So much so in fact that I am currently in the running to become a lingerie model for a curve loving company. To say I am not a typical underwear model is an understatment – I have thighs that wobble, bingo wings and a rounded tummy, but somehow I have made it to the Top Ten from hundreds of girls. It has done nothing but boost my confidence and swell my ego and make me proud to have curves! Let’s hope I can carry on the revolution! Despite the fact that the average woman is a UK16, there is still little representation for us in the world of fashion. Crystal Renn has provided a huge break through, but not without some negative backlash. ‘Plus size’ models such as Teer Wayde, Robyn Lawley and Ashley Graham are slowly being used with varying good and bad feedback. However designers still prefer to use slim women at big events and main catwalk shows. Christina Hendricks was reported to have had an extremely difficult time finding a dress for an award show as no one was willing to make something large enough to accomodate those amazing curves – utter madness! Women’s bodies are generally designed to be soft and round to attract a partner and reproduce. Not all of us may not wish to do either of those things but we should never be ashamed of having the shape Mother Nature gave us.
When it comes to ourselves we are the most critical, more so than anyone else who may call us names or be unkind. I can look in the mirror and go ‘eurgh, I hate my tummy’ and then five minutes lates my boyfriend will tell me he loves my bum, or a friend will declare her jealousy at buxom upper half. And in order to embrace what we have we need to start taking notice of all those things that others love and covet and learn to love and flaunt them.